Letting Go… Is Something You Can Do.
Letting go? Can you do it or can you not?
I am sure we all have faced problems in our lives and sometimes when we try to drop it, we feel the pain in our hearts. Honestly, it’s easier said than done because there are times when no matter how hard we’ve tried, we will not be able to let certain things go from our lives.
Perhaps some of you may have not experienced this before but what I can tell you from my own first hand experience is, it’s neither easy to let go nor to forget something that we’ve had in our hearts and soul for such a long time. It does take time and when time pass by things will change, either for the better or for worst.
Letting go may not be the last resort for certain problems but when you yourself know that there isn’t any solution for that existing problem between you and your peers, siblings or others, do know that it’s the time to let go of your attachments. As I’ve said, it does take time and you cannot just drop something that you’ve build over the years or months in just one night or even a week! That is why time will help us in letting go although it’s a tedious task.
I’ve come to a point that I’ve realised that there is certain stuff that one has to forgo and also let go because we are still humans and remember nothing is perfect in this live of ours. Living life to the fullest is the best and when you’re bothered by cumbersome problems or thoughts that wouldn’t even matter to anyone, it’s just a waste of time. I am not an expert but flashing back my own recent memories I’ve realised that nothing is permanent in this life.
Morrie Schwartz once said:
Don’t cling to things because everything is impermanent.
You cannot go running and chasing other people’s tails because that is not the right thing to do. Besides, you have your own life and shouldn’t be bothered about what others think of you or what people might say behind your back. All these happen because it’s one of our human nature. Things happen. We cannot turn back the time because it’s impossible.
What’s more, I believe that we should live our own lives and not living our lives for others. I mean, frankly, it’s for our sake and remember, not others. People may not like what you’re doing or what you have in mind, so just screw it because there is one thing we cannot change in this world. And it’s their thoughts and minds. Yes, things may be easier if we can read their minds but this will not happen.
Think about the future. Think of the long run and not short run. If you let problems bug you till you get depressed, it will not do you good either because you’re only hurting yourself at the end of the day. And what’s more, you’re not going to hurt the other party as they will not feel what you’re feeling at the moment. Perhaps, they have pawned you if you do succumb in front of their menacing eyes. It’s like a psychological warfare.
What I’d say is be tough, strong and don’t let the strong gale blow your stand away. Stay firm on the ground and believe in yourself and what you can do to lead a happier life and don’t go troubling yourself with those cumbersome thoughts as it will not only pull you down, it will hurt you to the max. Once you’ve learnt to let go some of those troublesome thoughts, your life will be happier and more cheery for the days to come!
Dear readers, is letting go easy or hard? Any experiences of your own?
Yes.
Practice makes perfect.
It may not be easy for you to choose to let go at first
but with consistent will you will be able to do it and control your own life.
Letting go is not being weak.
It is a type of courage, which is possessed by people who have conquered themselves.
cheers.
Life Feel said this on October 3rd, 2005 at 11:43 pm
Knowing that all events in life are temporary helps you to let go.
Life Feel said this on October 3rd, 2005 at 11:45 pm
letting go is hard. easpecially of love. I have not been able to let go…perhaps the strength has not come to me yet
yuin said this on October 4th, 2005 at 12:55 am
To me, letting go is probably the hardest of all things to do.
But, oh well, in order to be happy again … I guess one must let go of the past, in such a way that only the happy memories and lessons remain.
Liz said this on October 4th, 2005 at 2:49 am
people come people go….I never clung on to friends….i have only a tiny circle of friends…and even then someday I kow I would have to let them go…I have to move on….live my own life!
It’s not say I’m being heartless or anything…but that’s the cycle of friendship….
centerpide said this on October 4th, 2005 at 7:29 am
It’s easier to let go when you know that you do not belong to this world. You are only a passanger on this privileged ride called ‘life’… and it only lasts for a good 70 years, 80 if you’re lucky. After you step off the ride, the ride will still continue to function.
It’s never easy to let go of past hurts but why try so hard to forget it when you can learn a lesson from it. Forget the hurt, and strive on for the future with the lesson learnt.
We are only temporal beings living in a temporal world. Modern science has done a lot to preserve this world, but it was modern science that has made this world harder and harder to preserve. So, in the end, the ride itself will end…
Do all you can while you still can, and leave a good note to your name. That’s the least we can do as a human being. Hurts are part of a growing-up process, and we only stop growing when we’re dead. So…
SaDdNesZ.jc said this on October 4th, 2005 at 10:30 am
i…i…can’t let go of the fact that my darling man utd team of 98/99 is…sob…breaking up!!! =(
seriously though, i have a problem with letting go. it’s gotten easier as i’ve grown older, but it’s still something i struggle with alot. i think it’s a life-long lesson that has to be learnt slowly…but it NEEDS to be learnt.
lishun said this on October 4th, 2005 at 11:29 am
sometimes, it’s really much easier said than done. but try, we must.
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sublimal rest. my sweet resting place. » letting go said this on October 4th, 2005 at 8:39 pm
Sigh, it was tough when I had to let go of the first one even though I have one to replace the first one now, it was never as nice as the first that I saw. Sheesh, I really should’ve just bought the damn red pants when I first saw it…why oh why did I spend all my money before end of the month.
but seriously, I’ve never experienced the pain of letting go something that you love before even though I can imagine how it feels like but I bet the real feeling is horrible.
S-Kay said this on October 4th, 2005 at 8:58 pm
Letting go of the dead is easier to do than letting go of someone you love who is still alive. You can’t help but think of the possibility of you getting him/her back, remote as it may seem. That possibility exists, and you torment yourself by thinking about it endlessly. Letting him/her go is always the last thing on your mind. Even constant practice of that doesn’t make less painful.
darla said this on October 19th, 2005 at 1:30 pm
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Dealing with Reality :: The Blog Reader :: October :: 2005 said this on October 20th, 2005 at 12:18 pm
Letting go is really hard especially if you are deeply in love
jhayr said this on November 23rd, 2005 at 11:13 am
Letting go is really hard especially if you are deeply in love with that person. As the saying goes,” if you love somebody set him free, if he comes back he is all yours”. Letting go is not a sign of being weak. In fact, it is a sign of being courageous to face and go on with ourlives.
jhayr said this on November 23rd, 2005 at 11:26 am
I agree with Darla …letting go of a person who is still alive is much harder. I met my soul mate…a man whom I loved with all my heart……but it didn’t turn out the way I expected it to. I am having an extremely hard time letting him go (2 years now) but I keep praying to God that someday I’ll finally be free. Even though he’s married, I wish him nothing but the best. He enriched my life and made me extremely happy in the time that I spent with him and for that I will be thankful. I think I will be ready to love again soon if only I could find him.
Joanne said this on January 29th, 2006 at 9:59 am
Hi, I’m 19. i really liked alot of the things you had to say. Right now I have a problem. I got out of a relationship that lasted 10 1/2 months about 4 months ago. He broke up with me. Letting go of him is foremost the hardest thing for me to do. I keep dwelling on it. It’s making me kind of sick.
Here’s what happened:
We first met at church when I was 11. Ever since then I’ve had a crush on him. We didn’t get together until I was 18. When our relationship started we grew very close. We were together almost everyday. We acted as if we were married except for the living together part and the whole sex thing. We were so happy together. He wanted to marry me. He didn’t want to leave me behind. Then once summer was over he left for Texas Tech University up in Lubbock. So we started the whole long distance relationship bit. At first everything was ok. Then about 2 months later he started hangging out, teasing (flirting), and spending alot of time with his “friend” girls at his dorm quite a bit. I got really upset with him and jealous. He wanted me to transfer up there and I was, but then a few days before his birthday he broke up with me. He told me that he didn’t have time for me, that I was getting in the way of his homework, that I’m too much work for him, that the only reason why we lasted as long as we did is because he’s the one who kept it alive longer than it should’ve lasted, that I’m a liar, thief, and a deceiver. That he’s happy to be rid of me and that the only reason why I’m talking to JT is because I know he hates him and I’m trying to get him jealous and it’s not working.
What I don’t get is that not even 10 days before his birthday he’s begging me to go up there and be with him then he just breaks up with me. I have no clue as to why he said I’m a liar, thief and a deceiver. Also, how can someone who has held on to something so long and hard be pretty quick to let it go?
His best friend Olivia called me and told me that Michael (the guy I’m trying to get over) told her that when he was with me he loved me very much and that he broke up with me because his parents had been getting on his case about his grades (his mother has alot of control over him) and he just needed time away to figure things out. He also said that the reason why he broke up with me the way he did was because thats the way he breaks up with all of his girl friends so that it would be easier for him to let it go.
So do you have any advice for me to help me let it go? Or can you tell me what he maybe feeling and going through right now or when the break up juat happened?
Thanx
love~Angel
Angel Mendiola said this on February 26th, 2006 at 3:46 pm
Hi Angel,
Do check your Yahoo mailbox all right. *hugs*
Kyels said this on February 26th, 2006 at 3:57 pm
know that as you let go-God is there to catch you.
Lil said this on May 4th, 2006 at 11:30 pm
i accidently came acroos this page.. oh maybe not..as I believe we are led to the things/people we need most perfect/opportune time. I’m almost 31 and even tho I broke up with my last partner in late 04..I still think about him, and even as 06′ year ended I still reflected on impact he had on me, and part of me wishes we could have worked out, would have done things different..and all of this whilst I’m adjusting to fact that I’ve met someone new, someone who genuinely makes me happy in a way NO-ONE ever has.. so i think it does take courage above anything else to move on. To want the best for other person, and to want the best for yourself.. to accept the things you cannot change. What else can you do.
I wish you all those healing over old hurts the best and mostly PEACE!! Be, do whatever you choose for you..and don’t let no-one tell you any different! Esk xx
ESK said this on January 17th, 2007 at 9:19 am
I was looking for a blog on letting go when I came across this page. The blog here fits perfectly in my own situation right now. You see I have been attracted to a younger woman for a few months now and I’m finding it hard to let go of her. I’m deciding to let go of her because i just realized that our relationship is going nowhere. I guess she is just being friendly and I might be thinking otherwise when in fact I can observed that she is a friendly type. When you are strong enough you can easily feel in love with her since she is the one who initiate the communications either via msn , txt or email. If you don’t watch out you will just find yourself one day that you are already her victim. day in and day out her image will be the content of your mind and you will just realized that all your deeds are related to her. I will try to let go of her even though I know how hard to letgo since it is the best things to do.
patrick said this on March 23rd, 2007 at 1:22 am